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Saturday, 3 September 2011

ADVICE NEEDED! WAHALA DEY DIS FAMILY (if i no ask una bloggers na who i go ask?) happy new month yall


Mfon will not allow her husband Okon to make love to her without condom, her reason is that the husband is not faithful and shes not willing to contact STD, Okon is very angry and frustrated and is threatening to get a second wife.


who do you blame for this and wouldnt this cause a big issue in the marriage?
how do you curtail a known philanderer and avoid contacting the incurable......bloggers family..your views before they get to the stage in the following picture ;)

Cest Moi
Mena

14 comments:

Pretty Lashes said...

wow, I guess if I was in her shoes and I knew my husband was cheating and I wasn't bothered enough to leave, i will also insist he wore a condom.

Better safe than sorry; seeing as he doesn't care for her enough to not sleep with multiple women.
xx

Olori said...

I definitely blame the man and yes it will cause a big issue na....no be sex again? its one thing if the man was serious about the marriage and her policy of no sex without condom will make him retrace his steps. but d one dat he is already talking second wife i cant advise her to stop using the condom and risk std cos i believe the man will still b playing away match so either way shes left with the short end of the stick.

However, is she doing passive aggressiveness. Has she told the husband point blank that "bobs no show without condom cos u dey play away match" OR is she just refusing sex without condom and expecting the man to figure it out? does she have proof that he is cheating or her friends cousins sisters inlaws wife told her that her husband is cheating? Communication here is definitely important.

Another option, is simply telling him that you cant trust him anymore cos of the proof you have seen of his unfaithfulness so if he wants the marriage to work, you and him will be going for test maybe every one to 3 months while you guys try to patch things up and regain the trust.

HOMEMADE ENTERTAINMENT said...

I agree with pretty lashes,i cant be used for experiment in the name of love

Ginger said...

I think I know a couple like this, lol. They are still living together but in name only. In these days of STD/AIDS, a wife gotta do what she has to do...

Okeoghene said...

Are they having an Open marriage where they are allowed to have sex with other people? The man is even already threatening to have a second wife. He is not serious. I agree with Olori that she should not just be aggressively passive, she should let him know that she is insisting on the condom because he has other sex partners.

My life said...

Hmmmm...... i also agree with olori on being straightforward with him cos id rather be divorced and healthy but then again why get married if you know ur gonna cheat wen u can be single and do whatever you want to do "sighs"

Ibhade said...

Like the lady pro-activeness o jare!

Who to blame??...the man of course!

won't it cause a problem in the marriage?...it depends...yes/no

How to curtail a philanderer? .. castrate him or go voodoo on him?.. hahahahaa..i really dunno... her using condom is a STRONG MESSAGE to him....ok, she could try any of these options;

1} she should pay less attention to him, & concentrate more on her career & kids that always hurts their egos!

2}Just like the dog behaves, when it walks around all day, it would still return back to his master!

3}SHE SHOULD CONTINUE USING THE CONDOM, IF BECOX OF THAT HE REFUSES TO SLEEP WITH HER, LET HER GET ANY OF THE BATTERY SEX TOYS & HAVE A BLAST IN HIS PRESENCE!...now, that is not a bad idea...but cunning wicked! #insert nollywood bad -guy laugh}.
3 September 2011 04:48

Duchess said...

If she's sure of his philandering then she's doing the RIGHT thing...make she no take because of marriage go contract heavy STD! Like Ibhade said she should probably get a toy to help ease her own 'urges'. lol

Why does he even want condomless sex with his wife sef? isn't he getting enuf of that from the girls outside?


Meanwhile I nefa see you for my side recently...remember our deal?
3 September 2011 09:14

Kiky said...

this just clearly shows the man does not give a fuck about her, she should file for divorce now and take what she can before a second wife gets in the picture. stupid man.

Prism of an immigrant said...

The woman is applying wisdom jare. She had berra continue protecting herself from her unfaithful husband. AIDs no get cure abeg.

kitkat said...

i'm 100% behid the woman on this one.. she gats to protect herself. He shoulda known not to be a cheat if he wants to have sex with her without protection..mschew

A-9ja-Great said...

If she's certain of her husband's infidelity,then her actions is actually not wrong.

'Lara said...

threatening to get a second wife is just stupid.

Do they have kids already, if not then what is the point of staying the marriage self. I like the woman's decision sha...before the man will go and dabaru her future.

FlourishingFlorida said...

she's doing the right thing joo. i for say she shld go to court, charge him for endangering her life (if she get evidence of his philandering).