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Sunday 14 April 2013

GRAPHIC Sexual positions during pregnancy



Hello

So I will get straight to the point. At a popular lounge in Abuja I got into a discussion with some guys. It started with a big oga asking if I can loose even more weight? I replied that I am a work in progress and will try my best. Now this big oga weights at least 60kg more than I do and is shorter than me, plus his stomach and bum potrudes making his figure look like that of a pregnant warthog. lol. Staring intently at big oga's potruding belly I asked another guy how far along was his pregnant wife and trust guys to somehow lead the topic to sex. The general consensus is that they do not want to have sex with their pregnant partners, however as they do have sexual needs they intend to get 'assistant wife' from the university of abuja to help out till main woman put to bed. I strongly disagreed and threatened to inform the wives of the few of them whom I was acquainted with. The atmosphere became a bit tense until someone threw in a joke. After laughing, I informed them that I will blogging about sexual positions during pregnancy and they should read it and hopeful realise that what they are looking for in sokoto (uni Abuja under grads) is right in their shokoto (in their wives).

As I have never been pregnant before I did a little research however this is from the female perspective, so guys (you know who you are) read to understand more about what your wife is going through, *An exception can be made for the Big Oga with pregnant looking stomach, (and people like him) please parts of this topic covers your perspective as a proud beer belly holder, so read it too* ;)*
...enjoy


How you will feel about sex while pregnant depends on your individual feelings about sex, your partner's feelings, and the physical and emotional changes of this particular pregnancy.One minute, the sight of your partner makes you want to put him out with the weekly garbage; the next, you might want to ride him hard.one guarantee – while pregnant you will feel different about sex.

Some women become aroused more easily, and climax more quickly, pleasurably, and frequently, and many men find their pregnant wives sexier than ever. Yet while some couples experience pregnancy as a peak erotic time in their married life, others experience a downturn in desire or satisfaction. Most couples report both ups and downs. Fortunately, all of these feelings are normal. And the good news is a little knowledge helps most couples increase their sexual pleasure during these pregnancy months.


First trimester. In the early months fatigue, along with nausea and fear of miscarriage, turns sex into an uncomfortable obligation for many women.Be aware that it’s pretty common for some women to experience bleeding during intercourse, especially in the first trimester. This is caused by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during sex. While such spotting or bleeding is generally nothing to worry about, you should still mention it to your doctor or midwife

Second trimester (called "pregnancy's honeymoon"). Hormonal surges level off. Fatigue and morning sickness usually lessen, the fear of miscarriage subsides as the statistical risk decreases, and many women show a surge in sexual desire. It is not uncommon for men, enjoying the new erotic feelings of their mates; to feel that the sex they didn't get earlier was worth waiting for. The heightened sensitivity of the erogenous zones is so thrilling to many women that they experience more enthusiasm for sex during the middle months of pregnancy than at any time in their lives.

Final months. Do not be surprised if in the final months you are too large, too awkward, or too preoccupied with the coming birth to enjoy sex. In the third trimester, as a ballooning abdomen literally comes between a woman and her partner, most women report that they focus more on becoming maternal rather than being sexual. Even if the body is willing, it is clumsy.


8 TIPS FOR BETTER SEX DURING PREGNANCY

1. Think round, think big. Consider what you're getting and not what you're losing. Your new roundness provides more surface area for your lover to see and touch. Stand in front of a mirror and embrace the new version of yourself. Take pride in your "new" body – give it the respect it deserves.

2. Give yourself a sexy look. Just because your body is getting bigger doesn't mean you shouldn't look your best. Treat yourself to a new hairstyle, change your make-up, and buy a new nightgown revealing what's appealing. This is likely to spark your mate and push your sexual image.

3. Act sexier than you feel. Social scientists have shown that acting can affect feeling. Smiling, for example, causes your brain to release the same chemicals it would if you were actually happy – thereby making you happier. If you act unsexy, you may cause your partner to feel unsexy, making him retreat. If you act sexy, you may soon surprise yourself with feeling sexy!

4. You are attractive to your mate. If you convince yourself that your blossoming belly is no longer attractive to your husband, you are setting yourself up for a sexual slow down. Besides, this probably isn't true. It's the different shape that attracts males. And certainly during pregnancy you will look and act differently than at any other time in your relationship. Research doesn't support your assumption that you are not attractive to your mate; most men find their wives' newly rounded bodies appealing. Your mate is likely to love the fleshy feel and curvy look of your pregnant body. Add to these features the possibility that once you are past the yucky early months of pregnancy you are initiating lovemaking and your mate is likely to feel excited about your sexuality while pregnant.

5. Have a sex talk. Tell your mate about the way pregnancy is affecting your sexuality; and ask your mate to tell you how he feels about your new look. Each partner should explain his or her feelings. Be sure that he does not interpret your disinterest in sex as disinterest in him, for example, or you don't assume his confusion over how to touch you now means he's not interested. By the same token, avoid projecting your sexual uneasiness onto your mate. He will probably find you more attractive than ever.

6. Share your body. Be sure to include your husband in the pregnancy by being proud of – rather than hiding – your body's milestones: your darkened nipples, the first tummy bulge. Focus on what is new and exciting that you will both enjoy only during pregnancy. For example, your new breasts will be "all his" for the rest of the pregnancy – what a turn on, without resorting to silicone! Lie nude together watching and feeling the baby move. Your mate will enjoy side views that he has never before seen. One fun project can be taking "as you grow" photos, month-by-month photos showing, from all angles, your changing pregnant image. Your mate will enjoy his "pin-up wall."

7. Have a fling. Have periodic weekend "dates" before baby arrives; after he or she comes you will have less energy for each other. The best time for ambitious sexual retreats is during the middle months of pregnancy, but make an effort to spend romantic time enjoying each other throughout the pregnancy.

8. Avoid the "sex as a service" feeling. While for most couples a certain amount of "obligatory" sex is usual during pregnancy, don't let your mate feel you are always "servicing" him (or her!), even though sometimes you are

Sex can still be comfortable, here are some graphic sexual positions


The old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:

Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.

You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.

Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.

Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.

You will have sex again after the baby comes
Just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, your libido can plummet and the lining of your vagina thins out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.

Most docs recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth (even for oral sex). The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling. When you do venture back, it’s important to make your partner aware that you may need plenty of foreplay (an
d possibly lubrication). Taking care of the baby for you whenever possible so that you can nap couldn’t hurt, either!

For more tips visit the source at
http://www.askdrsears.com
http://www.fitpregnancy.com
askmen.com

P.S: Have a great sunday and may it be the start to a wonderful week.
xoxo

Mena

24 comments:

youknowwho said...

I do not find my wife sexually attractive whilst heavily pregnant. I also do not find her as tight as she used to be before our kids,but I want a family.

This, mena is why I keep girlfriends

youknowwho said...

I do not find my wife sexually attractive whilst heavily pregnant. I also do not find her as tight as she used to be before our kids,but I want a family.

This, mena, is why I keep girlfriends

Anonymous said...

bwahahaha! mena you nutter, you really did it!!

will read, but its a long read

Ginger said...

Damn, i'm already feeling sexy and pregnant though I'm not.

Mrs YouKnowWho has got problems on her hands with hubby. smh.

On the other hand..maybe I can ask, Mr YouKnowWho..what is it in particular that makes her unattractive during pregnancy?

As for tightness...Oya Mena more research for you. Lets help Mr YKW.

youknowwho said...

Ginger, can I speak frankly without being called vulgar and insensitive?

Where can I start? Its a lot of things. She doesnt look sexy with the protruding stomach sticking in the way, and she is not flexible. She doesnt look sexy, her face and nose is bloated.

As for tightness, guy, I see you are not yet married, because if you were you would know the difference of vjayjay that hasnt pushed a baby out before and the one that as pushed not one not two but three. Vayjayjay is elastic but will never stay the same.And our 'koko below' misses the tightness. Imagne wanking but with a loose wet grip rather than a tight wet one.
There is a huge difference. You will understand better when you get married my man.
I keep girlfriends to satisfy my sexual needs but that doesnt stop me from being a good husband and father.

Ginger said...

I am not a guy o. I am a female with a vagina. And right now i feel saddened that the one duty our body and society has imposed on us (birthing the next generation) is now cause for sexual rejection.

Interim remedies: have you asked her to try kegel exercises? there is no flabby muscle that cant get tight again. pushing out a baby only happens once on labor day....its not like a gradual widening. Exercise can get it back. But you have to be ready to cut her some slack.
There is vaginoplasty.
There is alum...or so i heard.

I am yet to hear any valid excuse you have for cheating. If you were the one with erectile dysfunction...which is common in men at various stages in life, I'm sure you wont expect her to find succour somewhere else.

Sex isn't all about tightness. If that's what it is, we wont be more than animals. It is about fun, companionship, excitement. And these are controlled by the mind not the physical.

Ginger said...

Sorry Mena, I'm back again. Mr YKW has got me worried and really sad. How you look or how your body adjusts during pregnancy is no fault of the woman.

I just did some more internet researching. Kegel exercises is highly recommended. There;s also something called vaginal cones which can insert to help her exercise her vaginal muscles.

Funny thing is some women actually report tighter vaginas after childbirth...either due to extra stitches or because the younger they are, the easier it is for their body to return to normal by 5months post-birthing.

But in the end, no exercise in the world will help if YOU - her husband have psyched yourself into believing that her vagina is not as tight or satisfactory as 'Bisi' or 'Chioma's.

Gbemisoke said...

If Mrs YouKnowWho had CSections to birth your babies, just so her vagina stayed tight, you'd still find excuses for your lack of self control.
Own your crap and quit putting the responsibility for your philandering ways on your wife. Even if she was Miss World, your "chook chook" eyes would still pull a Jesse James on her Sandra Bullock.

Yes, I'm annoyed!

kevwe said...

Mrs YouKnowWho is in trouble eh! She's fat, not sexy, not flexible blah blah blah like she use to be, oga do u help her around the house? So that she find time to be sexy again? No! Instead u r out Faffing around and d worst is u blame her for it Tueh! Until the table is turned... U just wait.

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately Mr YKW speaks for majority of Nigerian men, even the ones that look like pregnant warthogsm

Anonymous said...

Right on youknowwho and the after birth is worse.

stretch marks, bloated stomach, overstretched vagina, saggy boobs, breastfeeding and just not so attractive. A fresh lady is infinitely more attractive than all that mess.

Sorry ladies but its true

Sisi Yemmie said...

Na wah oh. This Mr YKW is scary. If tables were turned...

pregnant warthog said...

Idomagirl, as a 'pregnant warthog' looking wealthy man, I can assure you that nigerian ladies are the ones totally desperate for marriage and kids, ergo they need to accept what they get

Unknown said...

#Gbam

Unknown said...

I feel so bad right now.. So now u prefer a fresh lady,u forgot that she was once fresh and d changes came because the gave birth to your kids.. Some men are so damn Selfish

Unknown said...

U kidding me right?

Anonymous said...

Greed,that's why men cheat.It sometimes has a lot to do with how the wife looks,her attitude as well as wacko. They have always wanted to play away,so the first opportunity they get,it's a done deal....and yes i'm married,loving the strecth marks,sloppy breasts,worn out 'cat' but the sex is great cos i make her purr like a kitten....it boils down to you,the men.....you get what you give.
-Warriboi in London vacationing in North America

p.s-Mena sort out the spam,not a good look!

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Anonymous said...

U r a sick asshole, this woman is carrying Ur child & u keep girlfriends on the side for ur own selfish pleasure? U r disgusting & immature. I dont care what anyone has to say, I know a real man appreciates his woman especially while carrying his child. Unbelievable how these lames have the nerve fo post shit like this

Anonymous said...

This shit is sad and shady as hell.! Your "wife" is carrying your child and you don't even notice the the sacrafises she makes! If your so bothered about how she looks while and after pregnant... Maybe you should just keep it in your pants and leave and whore around with your girlfriends instead of hurting the women you call your wife... Boys (yes boys cause only real men stay faithful no matter what) like have me wishing yall don't reproduce and make me want to rip y'all's balls off so yall won't create anymore boys with the same mentality you have. Your pathetic as fuck! Just saying ... t(-_-t )

to Mr YKW said...

You need to see an herbalist cos no pastor and Alfa can cure your sickness. They will need some leaves , fowl, eggs, red wrappers and at 12.00 am stand at a T- Junction and beg the elements and to have a little mercy on you.

U WANT TO EAT UR CAKE AND STILL HAVE IT BAH? NEXT LIFE U WILL COME AS WOMAN WHO BIRTHS ONLY TRIPLETS ACH PREGNANACY

Anonymous said...

It's cool I'll take his pregnant wife ;) don't forgot their boobs get bigger too and I'm a titty guy

Anonymous said...

It's cool I'll take your wife ;) don't forget their boobs get bigger too and I'm a titty guy