HELP 5 (CAN'T SEXUALLY RESPOND TO MY HUSBAND)

By my thinking any one of us can be silently going through terrible ordeals in our lives thinking we are alone, and believing there is no solution, no way out, well there is a way out! All you need to do is speak out or write anonymously, someone somewhere will respond to you. You are never alone, certainly not in blogsville. So I was browsing blogsville when I came across some stories. They claim to be true life stories and the writers actually need our advice. I couldnt resist but bring some of them to them to my blog so readers who have gone though a similar experience can play agony aunt and give them solutions. Or you can even give them some tough love as well. They will be published from time to time in a series titled 'HELP', this is the fourth part. You can find Help 1 Help 2 Help 3 just by a cick. Help 4 This is from a middle aged woman........................................................................................................................................................................................... “My husband and I have always had healthy sexual appetite since we got married about 30 years ago. We are now in our fifties. He is older than me by about 4 years. In fact at our early ages, we used to f*ck virtually every day. ........................................................................................................................................................................................... Any one of use could initiate sexual moves. We used various styles imaginable to spice our sex lives. We did it every where – kitchen o, sitting room o, bathroom o. No where was a taboo! We even used to f*ck in our car when on outings (it used to be all nite parties in Nigeria in the old days). But gradually as we grow older, our sex life tapered off to about 2ce a week. ........................................................................................................................................................................................... I still love my hubby very much. In fact I don’t think I can do without his company at anytime. And I know he loves me very much. My problem now is, while my husband’s sexual appetite is still relatively healthy(he still wants it once or twice a week), my own has reduced drastically. ........................................................................................................................................................................................... Actually I have little or no interest in sex again. Only my hubby now initiates sex and I only participate in a perfunctionary ways. If he doesn’t initiate sex in a month, it is like I am happy that he let me be! ........................................................................................................................................................................................... My husband now complains every time. In fact, any small gesture on his part that can lead to sex, I tend to discourage reflexively. Gestures like romancing me anywhere in the house (The kids are all gone) or kissing me, playing with my breasts etc, are the things I only allow when we are actually fucking so that he can enjoy the sex a little bit. I hardly participate. ........................................................................................................................................................................................... I know if we are in Nigeria (We now live in a Manchester suburbs), he would have gone out to play the field. What can I do? How do I rekindle my interest? He has tried several things. Blue film ni o, bought me some lingerie to wear, or tries several sex moves that can rekindle the spark. Nothing seems to work. ........................................................................................................................................................................................... Please help! What can I do?”