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Monday, 21 May 2012

HELP 4 (A HUSBAND'S BETRAYAL)

Hello Dear Patient Reader ;) By my thinking any one of us can be silently going through terrible ordeals in our lives thinking we are alone, and believing there is no solution, no way out, well there is a way out! All you need to do is speak out or write anonymously, someone somewhere will respond to you. You are never alone, certainly not in blogsville. So I was browsing blogsville when I came across some stories. They claim to be true life stories and the writers actually need our advice. I couldnt resist but bring some of them to them to my blog so readers who have gone though a similar experience can play agony aunt and give them solutions. Or you can even give them some tough love as well. They will be published from time to time in a series titled 'HELP', this is the fourth part. You can find Help 1 Help 2 Help 3 just by a cick. So here is another one of the stories, names adjusted for obvious reasons, published unedited, all words are exactly as she wrote it...
SHE WROTE: My husband came home one night calm and happy, I was surprised but happy. He's been out of control for sometime now, actually since I lost my dad two years ago. He became the CEO since my dad died, it was on the will for my husband to become the CEO and my baby brother the Managing director. I've done everything in my power to make things right but whatever I do is not good enough. This wasn't the same Tayo that I married. My parents were rich but their two children were trained well. I was working in my dad's company until I had my second child. My dad told me to stay at home and take care of the kids because I refused to get a maid and my grandma that was helping passed away at the time.(I lost my mom five years ago too) I enjoyed every minute of being a wife and a mom until I lost my dad. My husband came in that fateful day about three months ago, looked at me and said "I don't love you Kemi, I never did. I appreciate everything you have done but it is time I move on with my life. You can stay in this house, keep the cars and I'll arrange for monthly allowance for you and the kids. If your brother agrees with my lawyer's terms, I'll pay him generously for his share in the company. Thanks to your father, I owe the 70% of the company. Don't try to fight this, it is clearly written in your father's will." I woke up the following day at the hospital and by my side was dad's lawyer, she looked at me and smiled! Two weeks later, the lawyer came to see me at home and to my surprise, she brought with her a letter handwritten by my dad. I wish I could hug dad at that very minute. There was a clause in the will, if Tayo leaves me without any fault of mine or if he dies before me, I have to take over the company. Dad knew I could handle it, I've been working in the company since my first year in the university! Tayo came to the house two days after I saw dad's letter, begging me to forgive him. Why should I take him back please? We are not divorce yet but his girlfriend was living with him in my father's house when he moved out. My pastor is telling me to take him back because we have three kids together. I'm not confused on what to do but they are all getting on my nerves now. How do I tell the Pastor to mind his business please?

19 comments:

Nenyenwa said...

SIMPLY TELL THE PASTOR TO MIND HIS OWN BUSINESS! THERE IS NO HOW! And girl he is only wanting you back because of financial security to continue his habits with the ladies. He would have left you and the children with MONTHLY ALLOWANCES. SO I suggest to you to pay him monthly allowances to leave you alone! He is not worth the time and effort. Forgive him but move on!

'Lara said...

So if there was no clause, he would have simply left the woman...biko tell the Pastor to padlock his mouth...if there was no clause, the woman and her brother would have lost their father's sweat to that gold digger.

Sykik said...

Is this real .... like real life real.
The Pastor had better mind his business. The guy is just looking for financial security, he wants to guarantee his future meal ticket.I don't think being divorced or separated from one's spouse is a ticket to hell. Living life according to God's dictates is the way to Heaven. This is my two piece though...

musingsofanoverwhelmednaijamum said...

Your dad was very wise, he must have had some reservations about your husband,hence the hidden clause.Thank God you saw your husband's true colors.My dear just try and start afresh and focus on raising your children.If Pastor is so concerned,he can go and live with your husband.Obviously he's ready to do anything for money.

Frenchie said...

This man maried you for your dad's company waited patiently till your beloved dad's death to throw you and your brother out and you can't figure out a way to tell the pastor to mind his business? You must be kidding! Do you think he would have begged your husband to take you back? A big amount of money and he would have stayed away so don't hesitate! Speak up! Remove all hatred in your heart and move on with your life.

14me said...

where was the pastor when your so called husband was showing his true color....please kindly tell the pastor off,forgive your husband for the sake of the children and moved on with your life peacefully.GOD has save you

yinka said...

girlfriend it's the easy way out sticking with him.... but why settle for less the real deal is what he told you he doesn't love you and never did!!!!!! take the hard way divorce him and God would provide u someone who will love you!!!!!! he only came back to beg cause of the clause!!! you see this so why are you settling by considering the pastor!!!!!! a beg kick him to the curb

Talesofasinglewoman said...

Pastors are only human. I know many that would tell you to stick by your guns and leave. Lucky for you, your Dad considered any possibility. Don't give it another thought. Good luck for a bright and successful future! :-)

Anonymous said...

Darl, I think u should be at a church preparing the biggest thanksgiving ever, re u even thinking twice about "cutting off ur left hand dat causes u pain" how dare u neglect the warning signs God in his faithfulness exposed to u, and ur father in his father's wit foresaw some hitches....u still need someone 2 advice u? Not all women get this privilege of being forewarned o! said he married u for money....if u didn't hear him, pls hear mi...HE DOESN'T LUV U! Allow him otherwise? Heh! Dis money might not save u wen "hubby" shows his real self.

Anonymous said...

kick him out fast before they kill u n steal ur children's inheritance,as for oga pastor tell him to concentrate on ur ex husbands forthcoming wedding shekina

mariamah said...

Tell the pastor to leave you alone, and fling that guy out of your life, to hell with him. Moe on with your life.

olu said...

pls my dear sister he has told u his mind, don't mind that pastor they might be working together to swindle u of ur father's property. if u take him back u will be dead and thats end off the story! no one can fight that even if u don't take him back, he can still kill u with hired killer. make sure u divorce him and change everything to ur maiden name that is my own advice take to it. he is a gold digger

Anonymous said...

Find out if that pastor truly knows God or is serving his belly..

Anonymous said...

sis, as God don shown u ur enemy wetin u dey wait 4 again, u wan make d enemy kill u be4 u run abi or u wan make people remind u dat d guy only wants ur money not u or ur children be4 u chase am abi, beta thank God 4 Ur fathers Foresight and i know ur father must have seen d evidence dat he is a gold digger but wanted u to c 4 urself and decide, now make dat decision and move ahead, if u heed to dat pastor u will be amazed that he might have a share in dat cut wen ur ex eventually takes off wit ur huge money. wise up and be prayerful

luise said...

I was crushed when my lover of three years left to be with another man. I cried and sobbed every day, until it got so bad that I

reached out to the Internet for help. I threw away so much money - all for nothing - until I hit on the real thing. And that is him the

Doctor Messiah email contact freemercytemple@yahoo.com . He was different from all the rest order of the spell casters. Thank

him for me from the depths of my soul! I am extremely happy now. I hope God blesses you as much as He has blessed me.

Anonymous said...

Wt rubbish! To hell with d fool. Your kids will survive,he's a gold-digger

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