Friday, 8 April 2011
This is a true story about two friends. One, a very serious born-again christian lady, the other is a ‘worldly’ lady...
So I was browsing blogsville when I came across these stories. They claim to be true life stories with names adjusted for various reasons. I couldnt resist but bring some of them to them to my blog so readers who have gone though a similar experience can play agony aunt and give them solutions. Or you can even give them some tough love or better still, just give your candid thoughts.
This is a true story about two ladies. One is a very serious born-again christian sister named Kemi whereas the other is a ‘worldly’ sister named Funmi (names deliberately disguised, no surnames given). They both went to the Obafemi Awolowo University.
Funmi always had the attention of the boys since the JAMBite rush. She lost her virginity when she was in her first year of university within the first month after admission. Then, she had been very heartbroken about the loss and Kemi was there to comfort her.
In all, Funmi had already dated and 'known’ 5 guys by the time she was in part 3 (she totalled 7 guys by the time she finished from school) who all ‘used’ her and ‘dumped’ her. Kemi, on the other hand, didn’t date anyone - she didn’t have time for that.
This is an excerpt of a conversation when they were both in part 3 (300 level) in their room (they were roommates) in Moremi Hall.
Kemi: Funmi, you need to get your life on track and do the right things at the right time. Take me for example, I don’t have anytime for any boy right now, but just time for my studies, my church and the fellowship. All these boys will just use you and dump you and you will just cry and cry, eh!
Funmi: Kemi, am I crying?! I don’t know what to do! Akin left me for another girl-- a JAMBite. I caught him in bed with her in his room in quarters!
Kemi: Akin (pauses)...isn’t he the guy you aborted for? (pauses) What is wrong with you? What were you doing in his bedroom? You are a mess! You are like a prostitute...haba!
Funmi: Abeg, don’t judge me o, not everyone is holy-holy like you. By the way, how do you keep youself a virgin...me I like guys o, I like sex o...you know...it's like heaven!
Kemi: You must be a virgin on your wedding night o...you keep yourself undefiled by praying and staying focused...like me!
Funmi: OK o, but you should date a guy so you can learn about guys o, you know nothing about guys o....just saying!
Kemi: I don’t need to learn anything for now o, I am a child of GOD....I am a spirit-filled born-again sister, undefiled...not like you. When the time is right, GOD will provide me with the right guy at the right time.
Funmi: (pauses) you have started judging me again! (pauses) Why do you always do that...as if you are ‘better’ than me?
Kemi: .....but that is because I am....I don’t need to explain that, it’s obvious!
Funmi: (pauses) You know you should try to be less judgmental, you don’t know what tomorrow may bring for me...
Kemi: You will reap what you are sowing now...all your sex-sex-sex, you will probably get an STD and you will probably get pregnant again and you will probably abort again....your sins will multiply....just saying o! A word is enough for the wise!
Funmi: ....and you? What will you reap?
Kemi: Aaah, everything - good husband, good children, good life...(singing praise song till fade)
....that was 15 years ago.
Today, Funmi (age 36) has four children, and a very good husband. Kemi is unmarried, very single at age 37 and desperately searching.
Very complex one oh!! Right?